RECOVERING FROM NARCISSISTIC ABUSE INTENT TO INFECT YOU WITH HATRED

One of the most hurtful wounds in life that an adult can endure is when you have a relationship or marry a narcissistic / Jezebellic spouse and love them in a very kind and caring way but then the abusive narcissistic spouse abuses you horribly, controls, manipulates, yells, intimidates, humiliates, throws objects at you, threatens you and then goes to all of your mutual friends, family and church people and tells them lies about you to make them hate you and have nothing to do with you, often accusing you of doing exactly what they actually did to you. They are masters of lying.

It is extremely difficult to recover from this type of attack because when you have endured some of the most traumatic, painful emotional abuse or worse from someone and then they lie better than you can tell the truth – and you lose close relationships with many people – then you often develop an intense hatred and anger inside of your heart for your abuser and want to take revenge upon them. Unfortunately that allows demonic spirits to torment you in your mind and body due to unforgiveness taking root. That is the goal of the narcissist so that demons will torment your mind and body even after they are long gone so that you never heal from their damage and abuse.

In Matthew 18:21-35 Jesus talks about the need to forgive everyone from your heart for anything they did to hurt you. It doesn’t mean you reconcile with an abuser for that would not make sense unless they were delivered and changed – it means you give the abuser and your anger for them to God to deal with them. When we don’t forgive those who hurt us from our hearts then we are the ones who will be tormented by demons as Jesus talked about. When we forgive all for their sins against us then God will forgive us for our sins against others and removes the rights demons have to torment us due to unforgiveness. When we can understand that every abuser was also hurt and abused and never could forgive those who hurt them so demon tormented them – then we can more easily forgive them from our hearts for all their abuse.

Romans 12:19 NKJV

“Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.”