SHOULD YOU STAY MARRIED TO A NARCISSIST?

There are many who get married to their spouse expecting to be loved and cherished but instead begin to be treated with disdain, control, manipulation, hostility, belittling, disgust, disrespect and then leads to emotional abuse which can lead to physical and sexual abuse.

Being married to a Narcissist is one of the worst things a human can experience. They constantly emotionally tear you down, exhaust you and it often leads to sickness, disease and an early death and no desire to live. Their demons want to destroy you all the while appearing to be the greatest most godliest person on earth to others. They lie about you to get others to hate you. I knew of a woman at my church who stayed married until she got a brain tumor from her husband’s emotional abuse and finally died at age 49. Then he got remarried to a healthy woman and within a year she began to get sick.

In Acts 5:1-11 Sapphira submitted to her husband Ananias who told her to lie to Peter about how much they sold their property for when they gave money to him as they kept some money back for themselves and it cost both their lives as God killed them just a few hours apart. So a spouse who leads you away from God to lie and sin is not to be tolerated.

The abuser needs to be confronted and told that they either get their soul wounds healed and be delivered from their demons and stop abusing them and treat them with love and respect or the abused spouse needs to separate. Our ministry has helped thousands of abusive spouses to get healed and delivered and save their marriages. In Malachi 2 God says three times that He is angry with the man who deals treacherously with the wife of his youth – which ultimately leads to divorce. God is equally angry with women who abuse their husbands. Abusers have emotionally left the marriage even if they have not left physically and have joined Satan to attack you.

I Corinthians 7:15 NKJV

“But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.”

God will eventually ask the abused spouse who will they ultimately serve….the demons in their abusive spouse or God? You cannot serve two masters. God never wants you to make an idol of a spouse who serves demons. If you submit to a spouse who abuses you and do nothing for the Lord you will have to answer to God when He asks you what you did for His kingdom.