IT’S BETTER TO BE ALONE THAN TO HAVE MANY UNGODLY FRIENDS & FAMILY

Written by Mindy Schuman

There are many times in life when we find ourselves surrounded by friends, family and others who don’t have our best interest at heart. There are often individuals we allow to be part of our lives who have not aligned themselves with the kingdom of God and His commandments and have become a negative influence in our thoughts and actions. In many cases we allow these individuals to speak into us and be an active part of our lives causing much damage to ourselves and even our spouse and children. These types of relationships can be harmful and cause us to lose our peace that God desires us to have. We have a responsibility to our spouses, if married, and children to guard ourselves from those with evil intentions and who habitually practice sin and walk out their fleshly desires.

Many mistakenly believe that being connected to those who have repeatedly and habitually been critical, judgmental and harsh is somehow better than being alone. But it is far better to pull away and be separate than be negatively influenced, controlled, manipulated and mistreated by others just for the sake of having someone to talk to or do things with. This is especially important when we desire to go deeper into the things of God and desire to do His will for our lives above all else.

The enemy will always try to send those into our lives to speak lies over us, condemn and criticize us with the hope that we never realize who we are in Christ causing us to lack the boldness and confidence to do what God has called us to do.

2 Corinthians 6:14-17

14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? 16 And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said:

“I will dwell in them

And walk among them.

I will be their God,

And they shall be My people.”

17 Therefore

“Come out from among them

And be separate, says the Lord.

Do not touch what is unclean,

And I will receive you.”

We never have to fear being alone when we have a relationship with Jesus. It is better to be at peace with Jesus than to be in stress, abuse and fear with any other man or woman who wants to tear us down and cause us to stumble.

Matthew 10: 35-38

Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. For I have come to ‘set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law’; and ‘a man’s enemies will be those of his own household.’ He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me.

I Peter 3:12-17 NKJV

“For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, And His ears are open to their prayers; But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.” And who is he who will harm you if you become followers of what is good? But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you are blessed. “And do not be afraid of their threats, nor be troubled.” But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear; having a good conscience, that when they defame you as evildoers, those who revile your good conduct in Christ may be ashamed. For it is better, if it is the will of God, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil.”