TRUTH TELLERS ARE USUALLY HATED BY THOSE IN LEADERSHIP  Often those who expose the truth about others who are in sin are hated by many who have protected and covered for the sinful people being exposed because those who are in charge are benefiting from them. You see it in families, businesses, schools, and even churches and ministries. Money, power or sex is often at the root of it.  Jesus exposed the sins of the Pharisees and scribes and many in leadership hated Him for it and ultimately killed him. Those who are labeled the black sheep or scapegoats in a family are hated by their parents or siblings because they won’t just look the other way and cover for their sinful parents or siblings.  This same principle applies to those in businesses, schools, churches and ministries. The fact that most people are living compromised lives full of sin explains why those who choose to live godly, righteous lives like Christ are hated so much by most.  Matthew 10:21-23 NKJV ““Now brother will deliver up brother to death, and a father his child; and children will rise up against parents and cause them to be put to death. And you…

IF YOU HAVE A MORAL COMPASS YOU COULD BE THE FAMILY SCAPEGOAT / BLACKSHEEP In a family situation the scapegoat carries the sins of their own family (which typically have many members in the family who are unhealthy, toxic and/or dysfunctional). For instance, Dad is an alcoholic, sex addict, aggressor, prideful while Mom is his enabler. Or Mom is angry, controlling, belittling, prideful, demanding and Dad is her enabler. The family is expected to deny the truth of their parent’s dysfunction and hide it from the public (keep their dirty laundry buried in the backyard). So what the toxic family members will do is to label one of their children the “problem child” and blame everything that is wrong with their family on that child. This scapegoated child can do no right in their eyes. The scapegoated child typically has a moral compass and is a truth teller that won’t look the other way and ignore sin, but have a very good heart. The parent who is most demanding will usually make another child the “golden child” or the hero of the family who can do no wrong who will look the other way with their toxic parents lives. Since…

MANY FAMILIES RESEMBLE A NARCISSIST, EMPATH, GOLDEN CHILD & SCAPEGOAT Many grow up with a toxic dysfunctional family where a father or mother is a narcissist (Jezebel spirit) and their spouse is an Empath (Ahab spirit). The Empath allows the Narcissist to run the show because they get benefits of the Narc threatening others to give them what they want. Sadly when they have children they hurt them and cause future Narcissists and Empaths. In 1 and 2 Kings in the Bible Jezebel and Ahab birthed a daughter named Athaliah who was the golden child and became a Narcissistic Jezebel. Their sons Ahaziah and Jehoram became like their father and had the same Ahab spirit. This same family dynamic continues to happen today.  Often one of the children in a family has a good honest heart who wants to do right and sees the evil in the parents and will not just put their head in the sand and stay silent with their sinful evil behaviors. Of course the narcissistic parent hates that child because they won’t ignore their toxic sinful behavior and instead stands up to them and tells them where they are wrong and need to change. That…

YOU HAVE A MORAL COMPASS SO HAVE BEEN LABELED THE SCAPEGOAT / BLACK SHEEP  Today there are many people in the world who have been unknowingly selected to be the scapegoat in their family and in other relationships in life such as work, marriages, ministry, church, etc. In a family situation the scapegoat carries the sins of their own family (which typically have many members in the family who are unhealthy, toxic and/or dysfunctional). For instance, Dad is an alcoholic, sex addict, aggressor, prideful while Mom is his enabler. Or Mom is angry, controlling, belittling, prideful, demanding and Dad is her enabler. The family is expected to deny the truth of their parent’s dysfunction and hide it from the public (keep their dirty laundry buried in the backyard). So what the toxic family members will do is to label one of their children the “problem child” and blame everything that is wrong with their family on that child. This scapegoated child can do no right in their eyes.  The scapegoated child typically has a moral compass and is a truth teller that won’t look the other way and ignore sin, but have a very good heart. The parent who is…

THE BLACKSHEEP SCAPEGOAT IN YOUR TOXIC FAMILY OFTEN HAS A MORAL COMPASS! Many grow up with a toxic dysfunctional family where a father or mother is a narcissist (Jezebel spirit) and their spouse is an Empath (Ahab spirit) who then they have children.  Often one of the children has a good heart who wants to do right and sees the evil in the narcissistic parent and will not just put their head in the sand and stay silent with their sinful behaviors. Of course the narcissistic parent hates that child because they won’t ignore their toxic sinful behavior and instead stands up to them and tells them where they are wrong and need to change. That child will then be treated as the blacksheep or scapegoat and blamed for everything wrong in the various family members lives who go along with them. It’s because they have a moral compass, a good heart, often a godly heart that desires truth, honesty, integrity and living righteously.  Then often one or more of the other children in the family who will support the toxic behaviors of their narcissistic parent and look the other way will become the golden child that can do no…

What exactly is a scapegoat? Wikipedia lists two definitions with the first being a person who is blamed for the wrongdoings, mistakes, or faults of others, especially for reasons of expediency.  The second talks about the Bible definition which is when a goat is sent into the wilderness after the Jewish chief priest had symbolically laid the sins of the people upon it. Leviticus 16:6-10 NKJV 6 “Aaron shall offer the bull as a sin offering, which is for himself, and make atonement for himself and for his house. 7 He shall take the two goats and present them before the Lord at the door of the tabernacle of meeting. 8 Then Aaron shall cast lots for the two goats: one lot for the Lord and the other lot for the scapegoat. 9 And Aaron shall bring the goat on which the Lord’s lot fell, and offer it as a sin offering. 10 But the goat on which the lot fell to be the scapegoat shall be presented alive before the Lord, to make atonement upon it, and to let it go as the scapegoat into the wilderness.   Today there are many people in the world who have been unknowingly selected to be the scapegoat in their family and in their other relationships in life such as work, marriages, ministerial relationships, church, etc.…