Emotional abuse in marriage & relationships is unfortunately more common than people would want to think and is also equally as challenging to decide just how to address it and with whom.  Most times when two people get married for the first time they expect their partners to love on them and to allow them to make decisions that bring the greatest level of satisfaction to them.  They both expect to be able to do whatever they want to do that will bring them the greatest level of enjoyment.  Often times shortly after the wedding (and some times longer)  one of the spouses will usually place demands to make most of the decisions in the marriage and begin to control and manipulate the other spouse who usually has more of a giving heart.  Over time it begins to cause the spouse who is being controlled to feel less valued, dominated and no longer feel loved.  The more demanding spouse wants even more control, will behave very proudly and talk more condescending with disrespect to their mate.  Eventually the controlled spouse will feel sick to their stomachs frequently because of the consistent arguments (usually because after hundreds of arguments over the…

It’s been an interesting time for Christians in America as the Lord has been telling His prophets that President Trump would be re-elected but if you listen to the liberal media and Democrats the circumstances look opposite.  But isn’t that just how God loves it.  When everything looks bad and then suddenly things get reversed and good overcomes evil.  David defeated Goliath when he was a teenager and Goliath was nearly 10 feet tall.   Moses led the Israelites out of their bondage in Egypt but then ran into the Red Sea and about 3 miles of water to cross as the Egyptians were chasing them to hunt them down.  Then suddenly the Lord told Moses to raise his arms and staff and the winds blew the Red Sea apart for the Israelites to cross over and then covered up the Egyptians killing everyone.  Daniel looked like he would be killed by the lions in the den but God protected him and those who devised an evil plan were thrown into the den along with their families and all died.  Haman had planned to exterminate all the Jews and then suddenly Queen Esther told the king of his evil plan and…

Have you ever thought about why you do the things that you do?  Why do you spend the bulk of your time working at the job / career or ministry that you are at?  Why did you marry or divorce the person that you did?  Why do you do what you do in your leisure time?  Why do you eat the foods that you do and not eat other foods?  Why do you exercise or not exercise each week?  Why do you read the Bible or don’t read the Bible?  Most in the world simply try to get through one day in order to get to the next day but rarely think about why they do the things they do each day.  They usually justify that the reason they work at an unfulfilling job is because they need to make money so they can buy things to live or provide for their family. When I think about why I do the ministry that I do (trying to help people get healed from their past soul wounds and delivered) - it is because I lived through some personal pain that was deep and want to help others to be aware of…

So many people have been programmed to be “good little Christians” and to obey your leaders and rulers and do what you are told to do.  That if you disobey your leaders then you are sinning and will face the consequences of disobedience.   To never question what you are told to do and if you do then you are being rebellious.   This is what happened in round one of the pandemic back in April as most people believed what they were being fed because it appeared to be true what the liberal media was trying to convince the world of. Trying to instill an unhealthy fear that a virus with a 99.8% recovery rate is somehow the most feared situation the world has ever seen.   Trying to force healthy people to wear a mask for the first time in world history out of fear.  Now we can all see that this was simply a plan to try to force various states to accept mail-in ballots that would allow hundreds of thousands of fraudulent votes for Biden and to try to shut down businesses in the US so that Biden could force socialism upon the greatest country in the world –…

Pride develops in people several different ways.  When people get hurt by other people growing up with verbal / emotional pain from a parent, step-parent or any other person then they begin to hear demons tell them in their thoughts that they cannot trust anyone to protect them or make decisions for them.  That they must make all the decisions because their decisions will be the best and to control other people and tell them what to do.  Pride can also come upon a person when they grow up with a prideful parent as they do what they observe. Pride tells God that you don’t need him as you can do a better job.  Pride caused Naaman not to want to humble himself and do what Elisha told him to get healed from his leprosy (dipping 7 times in the dirty Jordan river).  He ultimately humbled himself, obeyed and got healed. Pride causes you to behave sexually impure having sex before marriage or masturbating with no conviction as you justify that if it feels good you will do it because you deserve it even if the Bible says it’s a sin.  Pride causes you to ruin your own relationships as…

John 8:31-36 NKJV The Truth Shall Make You Free 31 Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, “If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. 32 And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” 33 They answered Him, “We are Abraham’s descendants, and have never been in bondage to anyone. How can You say, ‘You will be made free’?” 34 Jesus answered them, “Most assuredly, I say to you, whoever commits sin is a slave of sin. 35 And a slave does not abide in the house forever, but a son abides forever. 36 Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.   So many people are deceived from the truth and believing lies in the world about people.  Satan caused the Pharisees and scribes to hate Jesus because He spoke truth about their pride and deceit and sin. So the demons in them lied about Jesus to get people to hate him and ultimately kill him.  Jesus’ truth set people freed from their bondage from demons but it was their choice as they had freewill. Paul had many people who hated him for telling the truth about Jesus and salvation and had people lie about him to turn others away from his message and they attacked him…

How mature are you spiritually?  Do you complain, strive, argue, worry, get angry, lust after other people, lie about people, walk in pride or have a negative attitude on most things on a regular basis?  If you do then you are still needing some additional spiritual maturity and need to be healed from your past soul wounds so that you can truly forgive those who have hurt you in your past and then command your demons to go.  People who are hard to get along with will have all been hurt and wounded when they grew up and will hear thoughts from their demons which cause them to strive with other people.  They will take an offense frequently over nothing and offend people badly all day long and expect others to take it.  They are impure.  They are not loving and kind. 2 Timothy 2:22-26 NKJV 22 Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart. 23 But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife. 24 And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, 25 in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God…

There is nothing quite like true intimacy between two people in the context of marriage.  When one truly loves their spouse like Christ and wants to serve them, surprise them with their favorite coffee or music, make them breakfast in bed, take them on a picnic to a beautiful waterfall, mountain or stream, holds their hand on a walk in the park, go for a run together, walk on a beach, watching the sunset.  It is the simple things that mean everything to a person when another loves and cares for them and their heart.  When a person will sacrifice their own desires for another’s.  When their spouse listens to their heart and soul being shared and truly shows compassion and empathy. When one texts the other person that they love them which cultivates a feeling of genuine love. When a person loves and cares for them and treats them with respect during the day and week then it naturally leads to a beautiful intimacy in the bedroom that is everything that the Lord designed and is far better than anything Hollywood can produce. Unfortunately for most couples there is no intimacy between them because of past soul wounds on…

Most people in the world are tormented by negative thoughts all day long.  They hear thoughts that blame them, cause them to take an offense or get angry, tempt them to do things that are not good for them such as sin, lie, cheat, steal, yell, complain, eat unhealthy, have no energy to exercise and then condemn for their mistakes.  Thoughts that cause them to lust, be jealous, get frustrated, feel sad, depressed, and even tell them to kill themselves.   2 Corinthians 10:3-6 NKJV 3 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. 4 For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, 6 and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled.   If we don’t take our negative thoughts captive then unfortunately the thoughts will take us captive.  The National Science Foundation did a study in 2005 which found that people could have up to 12-60,000 thoughts a day of which 80% of their thoughts were negative and 95% were the same thoughts they had the day…

2020 has been a year to show the Lord just how bold your faith really is in the midst of uncertain times that have included a worldwide pandemic, job uncertainty, riots, political confusion, relationships challenges and social media strife.  Unfortunately many people in the church ran and hid – bowing down to the enemy – getting into fear and worry, hiding in their homes, believing masks would keep them safe, being afraid to post their thoughts on social media for fear of people coming against them or getting reprimanded from their employer or church pastor.  It’s been a great year to show what your mettle (a person's ability to cope well with difficulties or to face a demanding situation in a spirited and resilient way) really is to the Lord. I think back to what the Lord asked me to do when COVID started shutting down the U.S. in early April.  I was in the middle of my 2020 BREAKTHROUGH tour as I was in Phoenix, AZ and everyone was shutting down and stopping their meetings in churches, etc.  I was supposed to go to Las Vegas, then Anaheim, LA, Ojai, Ventura, Burney, CA, Portland, OR, Seattle, Billings, MT and…