Many people want to only think of God as an all loving, look the other way on people’s sins and consequences for people’s actions, who tolerates those who abuse others emotionally while giving us hyper grace to get into heaven after we have died instead of holding us accountable for our behavior and lack of fruits of the spirit, and looking at the intentions of our hearts and minds.  But God is a God of justice and He knows the truth about all of us.  He knows how we treat our spouse and children and other people and it all matters.  He knows if we are emotionally, verbally, physically or sexually abusive or perverse.  And the Bible says he hates abuse, perversity, lying, and doing evil.  There are many people who abuse their spouse their entire marriage and unfortunately use the religious people in the church to protect them by shouting the “God hates divorce” scripture in order to keep them in their abusive marriage while ignoring the scriptures about their own abuse of their spouse which causes many to reluctantly desire to leave them so they can actually live and not die a slow pre-mature death.   Proverbs 6:12-19…

When we grow up we will receive various wounds to our soul (our mind, will and emotions) from people such as our father, mother, step parents, grand-parents, relatives, siblings, neighbors, church people, law enforcement, etc.  We all receive wounds as some get hurt in smaller ways (negative words, ungodly behaviors, pornography, incest, etc.) and some in much larger ways (sexually molested or raped, physical abuse, being yelled or screamed at).  When we get wounded we will then have thoughts of our own but also thoughts from demons who will chime in to make sure you have some anger and bitterness develop towards those who hurt you.  The demons know that when you have bitterness develop that they will have legal rights to speak to you and then hurt you and cause you to have all kinds of issues with your relationships (spouse and children and others) and physical issues in your body (sickness and diseases).  Demons will tempt you to sin so you will get hurt more and develop various addictions (alcohol, drugs, smoking, sex, etc) and then make decisions that are to your detriment.  Pride will also have legal rights to enter you (the spirit of Leviathan in Job…

Have you ever known someone who is actively involved in doing good works for their church, community and the world yet treats their spouse, children, employees, members of a ministry or certain people in very harsh, controlling, condescending, gossipy and prideful ways? When you are the recipient of a person who treats you badly while seeing all the good works that they do – how does it make you feel?  Do you feel like they are not the real deal – that they are simply actors or actresses who want the general public to view them as a great person all the while you have seen a side of them that is actually un-Christlike at the best and evil at the worst? How do you think God looks at people who play the role of a person who acts like they are very godly and giving but inside their heart and mind they are mean to those closest to them?  Do you think He can see the truth of who a person really is? 1 Samuel 16:7 NKJV 7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for…

There have been several times in my own life where the Lord took me from a place that I was comfortable with inside myself into a place of discomfort that was definitely out of my comfort zone.  I used to be a very successful corporate business man focused on managing corporate relationships / alliances with other businesses that complemented the largest internet banking company and largest banking compliance company in the United States that I worked for.  My focus in life was making a lot of money and becoming a millionaire and traveling the world to see beautiful places. But then I ended up going through a divorce after 19 years of marriage that saddened me greatly and caused my children much pain and hardships that I could not stop.  At that low point in my life I began to hear the Lord speak to me for the first time.  He asked me what I wanted out of my life.  I told him I thought it was a lot of money so I would not have to deal with problems like my father had (as he and my mother argued a lot over not having much money).  But I told…

It’s time for people in the world to realize that demons are real and they affect people in their minds by giving them thoughts and trying to get them to say and do things to hurt other people.   And just because a person attends church, prays in tongues and prophecies does not mean that they have Christlike behavior, love and fruit of the spirit in their lives.  There are many who are modern day Pharisees who are filled with religious spirits, gossip and pride from demons because they have not been healed from their past soul wounds from childhood.  They are contentious, jealous, angry, bitter, selfish, sexually impure and lie on a daily basis.  Those who are healed and delivered will have the fruit of the spirit and good godly character and integrity and whenever they are around those who have evil intentions in their hearts will see those people manifest against them. That is why Jesus said he did not come for peace but for division. When you choose to get healed and delivered from your demons you will not be able to be in harmony with those who are listening to their demons because they will hate you…

In order to do great things for the Lord we must endure very painful seasons which will give us experience in walking in others shoes and stretch us to prepare us for doing far greater things then we would be able to do had we avoided all pain.  So even though no one wants to get hurt, betrayed, abused, persecuted, laughed at, mocked, lied about, discarded….it allows us to relate to many more people in the world and once we have healed (through forgiving people who hurt us, humbling ourselves from pride and repenting for our own sin) we are able to truly help others to get to their healing and deliverance as well.  Without the pain and scars we would not be able to be used as impactfully for the Lord.  So the Lord will take you into seasons of pain and despair in order to have you come out the other side with an amazing testimony that could help thousands or more. So many people in the Bible who did great things for God had to overcome extreme loneliness, betrayal, accusation, lies and pain.  Think about people like Joseph whose brothers wanted to kill him as they were…

Sadly most people in the church don’t hear messages anymore about pursuing a life of righteous living.  They hear messages of hyper grace which tell them that they will never be able to live a godly life so they might as well continue to choose to sin and just ask the Lord to forgive them (and some have gone as far as saying they don’t have to ask for forgiveness anymore!).  Unfortunately this is causing people to have a lackadaisical attitude about pursuing a life of righteousness, purity and Christlike behavior which is playing into Satan’s hands. Most pastors never talk about Matthew 7:21-23 because they are afraid of offending their tithers and losing money from their regular attenders and they look the other way if they have a talented worship leader,  intercessor or church leader that they know are living an ungodly sinful life.  Unfortunately many of their church attenders are not on their way to heaven should they die and sadly they don’t even realize it because they don't want to preach the whole Bible.  They would prefer to speak about nice messages that never offend anyone.   Matthew 7:21-23 NJKV I Never Knew You 21 “Not everyone who…

It is truly amazing when you think about how many lies we believe to be true every day about situations and people.  We believe lies about people because we have been told information about people from people who have anger and hatred toward certain people that they can no longer control so they make things up to make other people to believe lies that are not truth to turn them away from their victims. I remember a woman in ministry told me once that she had a dream about me doing ministry with her in New Orleans.  This woman (Woman A) had a large following on Facebook in a group.  Another lady (Woman B) who had a similar ministry to hers was called a “Jezebel” and initially caused me to believe what she said about Woman B was true.  Later I observed that Woman A seemed very angry and wanted to “expose” many other people who had ministry to “take them down.”  I learned that Woman A lied about Woman B as Woman B was a very reputable person and had a ministry with great fruit.  Then later after I had to pull away from Woman A  due to her…

I am seeing more and more pastors, ministries and church people every week who are talking about the need for inner healing and deliverance from demons. It is exciting to see that people are finally waking up to realize that to enjoy peace in their minds and health in their bodies requires that they come out of agreement with the demons tormenting their minds and bodies. When we give demons legal rights through unforgiveness, pride and sin (and others in our blood lines can curse us through their own statements and willing actions) then we will never enjoy peace and joy no matter how much Christian music that we listen to, how much we fast, pray in tongues or prophesy. In fact we may not even make it into heaven unless we get delivered from the demons tormenting us so that we can actually have some good fruit: Matthew 7:21-23 I Never Knew You 21 “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. 22 Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out…

Emotional abuse in marriage & relationships is unfortunately more common than people would want to think and is also equally as challenging to decide just how to address it and with whom.  Most times when two people get married for the first time they expect their partners to love on them and to allow them to make decisions that bring the greatest level of satisfaction to them.  They both expect to be able to do whatever they want to do that will bring them the greatest level of enjoyment.  Often times shortly after the wedding (and some times longer)  one of the spouses will usually place demands to make most of the decisions in the marriage and begin to control and manipulate the other spouse who usually has more of a giving heart.  Over time it begins to cause the spouse who is being controlled to feel less valued, dominated and no longer feel loved.  The more demanding spouse wants even more control, will behave very proudly and talk more condescending with disrespect to their mate.  Eventually the controlled spouse will feel sick to their stomachs frequently because of the consistent arguments (usually because after hundreds of arguments over the…