SHOULD YOU STAY MARRIED TO A NARCISSIST?
There are many who get married to their spouse expecting to be loved and cherished but instead begin to be treated with disdain, control, manipulation, hostility, belittling, disgust, disrespect and then leads to emotional abuse which can lead to physical and sexual abuse.
Being married to a Narcissist is one of the worst things a human can experience. They constantly emotionally tear you down, exhaust you and it often leads to sickness, disease and an early death and no desire to live. Their demons want to destroy you all the while appearing to be the greatest most godliest person on earth to others. They lie about you to get others to hate you. I knew of a woman at my church who stayed married until she got a brain tumor from her husband’s emotional abuse and finally died at age 49. Then he got remarried to a healthy woman and within a year she began to get sick.
In Acts 5:1-11 Sapphira submitted to her husband Ananias who told her to lie to Peter about how much they sold their property for when they gave money to him as they kept some money back for themselves and it cost both their lives as God killed them just a few hours apart. So a spouse who leads you away from God to lie and sin is not to be tolerated.
The abuser needs to be confronted and told that they either get their soul wounds healed and be delivered from their demons and stop abusing them and treat them with love and respect or the abused spouse needs to separate. Our ministry has helped thousands of abusive spouses to get healed and delivered and save their marriages. In Malachi 2 God says three times that He is angry with the man who deals treacherously with the wife of his youth – which ultimately leads to divorce. God is equally angry with women who abuse their husbands. Abusers have emotionally left the marriage even if they have not left physically and have joined Satan to attack you.
I Corinthians 7:15 NKJV
“But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.”
God will eventually ask the abused spouse who will they ultimately serve….the demons in their abusive spouse or God? You cannot serve two masters. God never wants you to make an idol of a spouse who serves demons. If you submit to a spouse who abuses you and do nothing for the Lord you will have to answer to God when He asks you what you did for His kingdom.
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Great eye-opener for me that NPD trait is connected to Leviathan and Ahab and Jezebel Spirit. I now know that they cause spiritual and emotional wounds and there’s need to undergo deliverance sessions for restoration. Thanks for this message.
My mother was a narcissist, grandmother also. Then I married one, my best friend was too. They were all I knew for 50 years. I have exhaustively read your material, it’s really just been confirmation for everything God has taught me himself. I guess you can say I understand the assignment now. Thank you for being His vessel.
I have forgiven my ex husband who is a covert narcissist. He is still my “coparent” so we must still be in contact. I do the gray rock method. He accuses me of not communicating, but I continue on with the gray rock method. My son recently said he’s going to pray that we get back together. I fearfully thought is that what God wants!? It terrified me. But I regained my peace. He’s not a believer. He is extremely, calculated, manipulative. He has turned my own family against me. They believe his lies, even though they raised me. I was kicked out of my own home in 2023 (owned by my father and given to me after my divorce to help me out). My father had my ex move into it. We had been divorced since 2017. We never lived in that house together. The pain that my ex has caused has been life altering. To have my father disown me and pursue a relationship with the person he once thought was evil during my divorce has been the most isolating and painful experience in my life. I have forgiven both of them and I am free, but I never want to have a relationship with either of them. They combined there efforts against me and have done even worse to me.
I have no communication with my father.
My ex still torments me because we raise a child together and have to have limited communicate. He tries to break me continuously, since 2015. He almost did. I have felt so defeated and hopeless. But I saw the way out and forward in Jesus and forgiveness. It’s a battle. I pray for the demons that are tormenting my father to release him.