Every day people write to me asking how they can get their spouse or loved one delivered from the demons tormenting their minds. We must understand first and foremost that if the person is not your child and is over the age of 18 that we cannot impose our desires over their own choice of freewill. They can keep living the same way they always have and continue to allow their demons legal right to torment them if they want to. If the person is our child and 18 and under then we do have legal rights to an extent to command the demons to be gone. Of course if we are the ones who have hurt them or your spouse then its best to apologize to them and own your own issues so they can forgive you for what you did to hurt them which takes away legal rights of the demons to torment their minds. Then you can take authority and command the demons to go. If they have been satanic ritually abused then usually it will be more of a process to help them forgive those who have hurt them and then taking authority to cast the demons out and making sure they don’t continue to get abused.
Let’s talk about a spouse who has been hurt growing up (a parent, step-parent, sexual violation, anyone else who has hurt them) who has soul wounds and then demons have legal rights to torment their thoughts which causes them to behave in ways of the flesh and not of the spirit. So let’s say you have been married to them and they treat you in ungodly ways (controlling you, manipulation, lying to or about you, acting prideful, speaking harshly to you and often for hours at a time, your sexual relationship is not godly, etc.). They usually are operating in the spirit of Jezebel and Leviathan and are very mean and bully you so will make it miserable for you. The demons in them are tormenting their minds telling them to take our all their pain and bitterness on you. There are millions of people who suffer every day from these types of people. Some would be diagnosed as a Narcissist from the psychological community.
So what are the best tactics to do to help a spouse see that they are the ones with the issues so they don’t blame you for it and can get delivered?
- Pray for the scales on their eyes to be opened so they can see the truth. Pray that the Lord and the angels supernaturally show them the truth and that they have dreams from the Lord to see the truth. Ultimately it is usually the spirit of Leviathan that blinds them from being able to see the truth about themselves as they will want to blame everything they do wrong on you and others instead of admitting that they have issues that they need to own.
- Try to get them to watch video testimonies of others who used to struggle in their marriages and lives with the spirits of Jezebel and Leviathan but then got delivered. When they can hear it straight from the horses’ mouth of others who talk about how they could not see that they were the problem but later humbled themselves and then saw it and could admit it – it really helps them to identify with the truth. Restored to Freedom has many testimonies from people who have helped others to learn and identify with them. Linked here is the video testimonies on You Tube.
- Encourage them to watch daily teachings that explain how when people growing up suffer wounds and traumas that demons are given legal rights to torment their thoughts over an over again tens of thousands of times a day. If you can get them to watch a monthly worldwide deliverance session then they have a good chance to understand the connection and to get some freedom. They can get a word from Jesus concerning their past wounds which will help them to truly forgive those in their hearts who have hurt them deeply and then can be freed. If you can get them to come to a BREAKTHROUGH inner healing or deliverance event then they have a very good chance of receiving deliverance. If they refuse to watch or go then you can listen to the teachings within earshot of them allowing them to eavesdrop so they will have a chance that they will listen covertly and receive revelation and understanding and then deliverance.
If they refuse to watch any videos or read books or own any of their own issues then usually you will have to take the action of separating from them in order to give them a better chance to see that the issues are within them and to allow you to have peace instead of living in constant strife that will make you sicker and sicker and can lead to death. Most people do not want to separate for convenience sake but we are told in the Bible to not tolerate the spirit of Jezebel.
Revelation 2:18-23 NKJV
The Corrupt Church
18 “And to the angel of the church in Thyatira write,
‘These things says the Son of God, who has eyes like a flame of fire, and His feet like fine brass: 19 “I know your works, love, service, faith, and your patience; and as for your works, the last are more than the first. 20 Nevertheless I have a few things against you, because you allow that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess, to teach and seduce My servants to commit sexual immorality and eat things sacrificed to idols. 21 And I gave her time to repent of her sexual immorality, and she did not repent. 22 Indeed I will cast her into a sickbed, and those who commit adultery with her into great tribulation, unless they repent of their deeds. 23 I will kill her children with death, and all the churches shall know that I am He who searches the minds and hearts. And I will give to each one of you according to your works.
- When the person refuses to admit any wrongdoing or to seek help then pray for the Lord’s direction concerning a time of separation with the goal of reconciliation and He will give you confirmation either by hearing a word directly from Him or through a dream. Then be prepared for a fight between good and evil. Jezebel hates when they cannot control you so will often lie about you to other people to try to destroy your reputation to get you to bow down to them. You must be thick skinned in order to stand up against them and do not allow yourself to be weakened by their many attempts to either seduce you back to them, convince your friends that you are the “bad one” or to compromise on your godly principles. You do not want to submit to the demons in them as you only want to submit to the Lord. Pray that you will be strong and do what the Lord directs you.
- It is not easy but by obeying the Lord He will provide either a way of escape from the emotional abuse (and could be physical or sexual) or your spouse will have their freewill broken and they will choose to submit to the Lord and get delivered thus causing them to receive true salvation. Whenever we submit to the demons in our spouse then it gives strength to them to stay. Often your Jezebellic spouse will act good for a time to keep you from separating only to control you and abuse you again. This is the game demons like to play and causes you to be exhausted and broken.