I have ministered to thousands of people around the world who have had challenges with feeling compelled to control other people in an unhealthy way.  Anytime someone feels they have to control another person in an unhealthy manner it is always based out of fear.  The enemy whispers to them about various fear based thoughts to cause them to control other people who they have relationships with.  Then they end up sabotaging the very relationships that they are so desperate to maintain.  And it all starts when the person grows up in a family where their father or mother did not protect them or love them unconditionally. A typical scenario is a little girl who grows up either without a father involved in her life, or a father who did not love her unconditionally and may have been critical or emotionally abusive or worse. The more pain she grew up with, the more impact that pain will have over her, causing her to control based out of fear as she did not feel protected.  The enemy then starts to whisper to her when she is young, telling her that she cannot trust her daddy (because it is true). But then…

Today's world tells you "if it feels good to you, do it" and so many "Christians" justify living a lifestyle that is not even close to being pure or of highest integrity.  Then the enemy pulls them into justifying behavior that is contrary to righteousness.  The enemy whispers to them and they have no idea as they think it is their own thoughts, thus rationalize in their minds the plans of the enemy.  Once operating in a more justified sinful behavior, the enemy has them on his territory and the Lord cannot protect them.  People today have no clue how many of their thoughts are from the enemy because they are not in tune with the Lord and hearing His voice.  They are deceived and don't even realize it. So how do we get people who attend church to wake up and understand just how real the enemy is?  How do we get pastors and leaders to wake up and realize that the enemy is constantly at work whispering to them to water down their messages of purity and integrity so as not to offend any of their big givers to the offering plate?  The Lord is coming back soon…