THE WAYS WE SELF-SABOTAGE OUR RELATIONSHIPS AND HOW TO AVOID IT Billions of people on earth just want to have a good relationship where they are loved and have their needs met but unfortunately many of them self-sabotage their own relationships and don’t even see it. The enemy blinds them in seeing what they do that creates strife and friction between them and their loved ones and has them blame all the issues on their spouse or children or other friendships. As long as you give them everything they want or obey their every command then they will get along with you – but as soon as you defy their demands then you will get an earful. So what are some of the ways we ruin our own relationships? Jealousy – unfortunately many people ruin their relationships because they have unhealed soul wounds from their past and do not know who they are in Christ and the enemy convinces them that if their spouse glances at another person from the opposite sex or has healthy interactions with someone from the opposite sex then they get triggered and will go off on their spouse verbally. They feel like they are going…

WHAT ARE THE MOTIVES OF YOUR HEART? Why do you do what you do? Have you ever thought about it? The Bible has a lot to say about the motives of our heart. A motive is the underlying reason for all of our actions. Proverbs 16:2 says, “All a person’s ways seem pure to them, but their motives are weighed by the LORD.” Because the human heart is very deceitful (Jeremiah 17:9), we can easily fool ourselves about our own motives. We can pretend that we are choosing certain actions for God or the benefit of others, when in reality we have selfish reasons. God is not fooled by our selfishness and is “a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart” (Hebrews 4:12). Human beings can operate from a variety of motivations, often negative. Pride, anger, jealousy, selfishness, revenge, a sense of entitlement, or the desire for approval can all be catalysts for our actions. Any motivation that originates in our sinful flesh is not pleasing to God (Romans 8:8 “So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God.” ‭‭ God even evaluates the condition of our hearts when we give offerings to Him (2 Corinthians…