So many people around the world are finally getting set freed from the spirit of Jezebel (and Leviathan which always accompanies Jezebel). The spirit of Jezebel causes people to control, manipulate and demand their way over another person (their spouse, children, people in church, work, etc). They have a strong spirit of pride and arrogance and usually a sexually selfish side. Many marriages are being restored and families healed. But some people who finally have been made aware that they are operating in that spirit, have such a strong spirit of pride that they will deny they have it and refuse to get delivered from it. So what should you do?
It depends what kind of personal relationship you have with them. If you are married, have a parent who has Jezebel, sibling, minister with them, or work with them or attend school. In most cases the short answer is to simply limit your interaction with them because you will have no peace with them if you do. They will either pull you in to them to feel sorry for them and cause you to spend an inordinate amount of time with them causing you to be pulled away from ministering to other people who are truly wanting help and willing to change. The more time you spend with them, the more you will feel drained at the end of your time with them. You could literally waste hours each week talking to them as they try to convince you that they are loving and innocent while blaming their spouse, ex spouse, parents, and never taking responsibility for themselves.
So what should you do with people who refuse to deal with the spirit of Jezebel within them? Ephesians 5:8-13 “8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the Spirit[a] is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth), 10 finding out what is acceptable to the Lord. 11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret. 13 But all things that are exposed are made manifest by the light, for whatever makes manifest is light.”
Matthew 18: 15-17 NKJV 15 “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’[b] 17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.”
What do you do if you are married to them? That is the million dollar question that causes so much angst is so many relationships. On the one hand most of Jezebel’s victims truly have loved them and so feel torn when their spouse causes them to be pushed and provoked to anger every day. They love them but know that by simply taking the abuse every day does not fix the issue. They often times seek out counselors and pastors but most of them have limited understanding or none about how the spirit of Jezebel affects people. How it causes them to lie to their pastor and counselor and blame their spouse for most of their issues instead of being honest that they are the cause. Therefore the counseling sessions are largely fruitless because until the spirits of Jezebel / Leviathan are expelled from their victims, the spirits will continue to speak to the person and they will continue their bad behavior. You simply cannot counsel out a demon from anyone.
As long as you stay in close proximity to the spouse who is affected by Jezebel, and they refuse to admit they are operating in it and want delivered, then you are simply allowing and permitting that spirit to dominate you. You will never have peace in your home with them. They have to come to the end of their prideful self. If you choose to stay living with them under the same roof you will continue to be controlled and manipulated and treated badly, emotionally, and often times physically and sexually. You are enabling their behavior by trying to live with them because you will have to give them everything they demand and it will still never be enough.
I speak from personal experience as everything in my being wanted my wife to be set free from spirits she told me she could hear telling her bad things about me. But I did not know she had Jezebel / Leviathan until after the Lord told me to separate. It was by design for me to learn to experience an extremely abusive situation for 6 years in order for me to come out of it with an extreme anointing to help others around the world get set free. But for most people, living together for year after year with your spouse not admitting that they have those spirits and refusing to get set free once told they are operating in it, it is time to separate in order to bring about the changes needed.
Once you separate you immediately will experience more peace and your fear and anxiety of being in your spouse’s presence will be greatly diminished. The goal of separating would be to get your spouse to recognize that they have a major issue that needs dealt with. They need to understand that they need delivered so that they no longer hear the enemy’s voice speaking to them so loudly and then can walk in peace and love as a true Christian should. I have seen an extremely high rate of deliverance for those who have followed my ministry. They can either read my book Restored to Freedom (available in paperback, Kindle or audible audio in English on Amazon, or in paperback or Kindle in Spanish or German), watch my monthly Worldwide Deliverance Session on Facebook (by being my FB friend or LIKEing my ministry page Restored To Freedom on FB) or going to my You Tube channel (nelsonschuman67) and watching a deliverance video.
For so many people it is so hard to decide to separate because the enemy will try to cause you to have fear that you won’t be able to make it, finances, what will people at church think, etc. But the reality is that when you separate you will be able to have peace and force the person who is controlling and manipulating to look in the mirror and deal with the truth in them. Some times that person will still refuse to get delivered and choose to divorce. But is it better to stay in a marriage with a Jezebel who ultimately wants to shut you down from all effective ministry and to control your every move? When you are flying in a place they always instruct you to attend to your own oxygen mask first before helping your child because they know that if you don’t take care of yourself first you could die and your child could die. The same principle applies in a marriage to a strong Jezebel. They will suck the life out of you and cause you to have thoughts of hopelessness and even suicide.
I hate divorce and so does God. But God also hates abuse and the spirit of Jezebel. Even Jesus could not stand those operating in the Jezebel spirit (the Pharisees) as he knew their hearts were evil and wicked. So the best chance of improving your marriage if your spouse absolutely refuses to get delivered from Jezebel is to separate with the goal of deliverance and reconciliation. There is nothing like a marriage full of peace and love. And there is nothing worse then a marriage full of contention, strife, anger and hatred and lies. I have seen thousands of marriages around the world that have been saved and are flourishing in beautiful peace, love and joy. That is the goal of Restored to Freedom, my heart and the Lord. But sometimes the only way to save a person is to let them walk in their own sinful desires for a season.
In order to break down the wall of resistance within a person with a strong Jezebel spirit, it helps to be a part from them to allow them to see that the spirit is within them. They must endure all the fullness that the spirit can and is doing within them. Sometimes the only way to save a person is to let them experience the consequences of their own actions. That way their only real option and safe place to go is to God, and then back to the person that they have abused and apologize, humble themselves and repent to God for their actions. Then command Jezebel and Leviathan to go. Unfortunately dealing with people who have Jezebel is never easy, but for those who have read my book and watched my videos, we have seen miracle after miracle as its time for the church to be pure and spotless within before Christ comes back.
16 Replies to “How do you handle a person with Jezebel who refuses to get free?”
Thank You Nelson for this very knowledgeable and informative article! I experienced exactly as you described in my previous marriage. We were both afflicted with these principalities and I became so wore down, physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted. The Ahab spirit began taking over once again in me (I had put it away into adulthood for many years) and I began keeping my mouth shut often to avoid conflict around my children. I am so thankful to God for bringing me to Restored to Freedom! I don’t think I was able to understand or comprehend before, the exact ramifications and behaviors of these spirits. I have learned so much this year spiritually that I am now able to see clearly and understand. Sadly, I still have to deal with my ex husband because of our daughter, but I believe God will show me in a new light how to deal with him appropriately, thanks to this new found knowledge!! Thank you Restored to Freedom!!
You are welcome Tiffany !!
I have a situation I have prayed and fasted and everything I’m supposed to but I need prayer, iam 100% sure my wife has this spirit and maybe more. She had a traumatic upbringing and we have been together 7 years. Alot of weird unexplained things have happened and I was very fearful couple months ago, to much to explain here but this is as I fear way out of hand. I can feel it so strongly, I’ve had dreams where God has pointed me in certain directions towards people that it has attached to, from my job to my family and things have gone almost twilight zone. She denies everything and I’ve admired my wrongs and sins and been delivered myself, I feel now I can pray and they leave me, even praying when those around me are present that i know it’s attached too, they leave or get angered. I need prayer as iam not sure actually all im dealing with. I know jezebel is one but she said she’s afraid many are there and doesn’t want to be delivered. But tonight she said she will try.
She can watch my last Worldwide Deliverance Session – many have gotten freed after watching it. https://youtu.be/XEG0GJ5zcMg
Wow! I learned alot.
You described what I’m currently going through with my husband to the last detail. Wow.. I have so mich stresss and feel my chest so oppressed, i just don’t know how to go about separating.
The Lord will provide a way for you. Take a step of faith. You cannot allow the demons in him to stop the Jesus in you.
Your post is excellent. I went though this for many years, 10 plus. I felt there was a bad spirit in the house but did not figure it out until a couple of years ago. We are done and glad to be away from the negative energy. The bad spirit is still within her, so I have to manage that for the children’s sake.
I am positive my husband has the Jezebel spirit. He is one of those who deny that he does, and that I AM THE ONE WHO NEEDS DELIVERANCE, certainly not he.
My greatest obstacles is I have no car, no job, and my older age, 65, has hindered me from finding one.
I have children who WILL NOT ASSIST ME nor allow me to stay with them TEMPORARILY.
I refuse to mooch off anyone.
Living daily with this guy has been devestating …extremely toxic. I have literally wished death upon myself than to live another day in such hellish misery. Even considered the “position” of BAG LADY on the streets over staying with this wickedness.
What do u suggest to this carless, jobless, 65 yr old lady?
You need to separate in order to live. Trust God and He will provide a way out.
I have been through all that you described in your article. I am now separated from my husband who I am convinced is oppressed by the spirits you listed. He is successfully turning others against me. Even elders and counselors in my church. As I am separate from him I feel a renewed peace and a heavy weight being lifted off me. I want him to feel the weight of his sin but others are stepping in to alleviate his pain. Even elders in my church begging me to take him back.. at least just to sleep here. Is there anything I can do? His daughter is convinced that I have the Jez spirit and he Ahab. I do not think this is true.
After a true Jezebel has lied and convinced everyone that he or she is good and that their spouse is bad and then gets the support of those in the church then you need to move on and give him to God. What usually happens is that you will be blessed by the Lord for going through the abuse and lies and those with Jezebel will have consequences from the Lord. God wants them to look in the mirror at themselves and admit the truth and if they won’t then he will humble them. It is truly sad when those in the church believe the abuser instead of the abused.
My husband left me for another woman because of my extreme nagging , srubborness and self righteousness…He is filing a divorce .
I never knew I have Jezebel spirit until I have read about it…
Please help me …I want to be truly transformed and became a true child of God
Watch my last Worldwide Deliverance Session https://youtu.be/XEG0GJ5zcMg and you can also order my Restored to Freedom book from Amazon (paperback, Kindle or Audible)
I am dealing with this with my sons wife. We were warned how controlling she is and that she weaponizes lies against people. We reached out to son to have people to speak to him b 4 wedding he would not! They been married 4 years now and she has made false police reports on us. Thank God the last one we could prove she had no idea we had company!!! We basically raised our grandson my son has by another woman, that my son has custody of right now. She is so mean to my grandson I made a CPS report and the worker is her friend. Do nothing is helping my grandson. She has made countless outlandish tales to their attn and we have to hire attn to rebuke. Shes doing everything she can to keep me from seeing my grandson I have raised. My son is abused emotionally by her and isolated. I have no clue why but he is so blinded by her. He has come against us too. His dad told him to not come back here! We feel hopeless and tired. Everytime we pray over situation it gets worse. I sometimes feel the Lord is not hearing me but rewarding them and their lies. I fight those feelings daily I feel fear to fo as nothing. I dont know what to do at this point.
I believe my ex wife is afflicted. She lies, cheats, is sweetly manipulative, and threw me out after 19 years of marriage after having an emotional affair(which she denies despite concrete evidence.) She told me she prayed to God I find a person that loves me. I found this woman, a good Christian woman who fell in love with me. My ex drove her away by constantly interfering, meddling, and physically confronting my new love. The enemy whispered in my new love’s ear the lies that she could no longer ignore and broke up the relationshop. My ex has been in my dreams sexually seducing me. I prayed no evil spirits invade my dreams and last night, she was not present. She does not know of the break up, yet has been contacting me more than usual. Is she a bad person, jilted, or is she afflicted with Jezebel?