IF YOU HAVE UNHEALED SOUL WOUNDS YOU WILL MANIFEST
When we grow up we all get hurt in a myriad of ways, but some get hurt more than others. We get emotionally hurt from words spoken to us that are mean and harsh or condemning. We also get hurt by actions, and physical and sexual abuse. Many of us get hurt by our own parent, siblings, relatives, neighbors, teachers, pastors, etc. We also get hurt if we are exposed to porn, sexually touched or exposed, molested or raped.
Once we have been hurt we have the choice of truly forgiving that person from our hearts like Jesus did and behaving like Christ. Or we can be angry and bitter towards the person who hurt us and not forgive them in our hearts. Forgiveness does not require allowing your abuser to stay in your life. But if we do not forgive a person from our heart then demons will have legal rights to torment our mind with their thoughts causing us to trigger on other people and current relationships. We trigger by getting mad and angry, and overreacting to situations or going quiet for hours or days. Demons play a large part in how a person manifests. They give us thoughts and can cause our emotions to fluctuate greatly. Demons occupy our soul (mind, will and emotions) and will often attach inside our bodies and cause back and neck pain, headaches, sickness and disease. A study was done by Dr. Michael Barry, a pastor and the author of the book, The Forgiveness Project, and found that 61% of people with cancer was because they had been hurt and refused to forgive their offenders from their heart.
““For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
Matthew 6:14-15 NKJV
Demons affect most Christians in their souls until they take away their legal rights to torment them, largely through forgiveness, and repentance of pride and sin. Sadly many church leaders are affected by demons in their souls and they manifest on people who are already hurting thus why the church can be a very unsafe place to be. Jesus was angry with the Pharisees because He knew their hearts were prideful and they were hurting people who were already hurt instead of loving them like Christ.
This explains why more than half of pastors look at porn on a regular basis. They were exposed to porn or sexually violated when they were young and never got their soul wounds healed so demons continue to have rights to draw them into very addictive and destructive behavior which ruins the intimacy between them and their wives and then they can never help others to get delivered. Looking at porn is adultery in God’s eyes.
““You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Matthew 5:27-28 NKJV
Same thing if a woman gets hurt growing up as she will often control and manipulate her husband ruining the marriage. So as long as our souls are not healed from the wounds we will manifest in sinful ways. Selfishness. Sexual impurity. Lust. Controlling other people. Pride. Fear. Addictions.
Many relationships struggle with one spouse operating in the Jezebel spirit being married to a person with the Ahab spirit. Jezebel causes people to manifest by being controlling, demanding, manipulative, sexually impure, prideful, jealousy and trying to remove all the healthy friends of their spouse so they can isolate them. Ahab tends to cause people to draw into relationships with Jezebel as they feel safe allowing their spouse to run the show and intimidate other people to do what they want and give in to them. Ahab tends to benefit initially from having a demanding spouse to get them what they want (remember Jezebel in 1 Kings getting Ahab Naboth’s vineyard) but over time they get steamrolled and controlled and they tend to grow weary of the demanding behavior towards them.
So what is the solution? It is going through the process of getting your soul wounds healed and deliverance from demons. This could take a person months or years to complete. You need to forgive everyone from your heart that has ever hurt you, repent for your pride and sin and command demons out. Stop all addictive behaviors. Making sin rare in your life. Then you won’t manifest on people anymore. You will have the fruit of the spirit in your life. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control. You will walk in humility instead of pride. You will also live a sexually pure life. You will live a life similar to Christ with the same fruit instead of manifesting with fruit of the flesh, selfishness, and being mean.
“Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.”
Galatians 5:19-26 NKJV