HOW TO ATTEMPT TO GET YOUR JEZEBEL (NARCISSIST) SPOUSE DELIVERED
The Jezebel spirit torments both women and men. It gains legal rights to torment a person when they have been hurt growing up. A controlling father or mother who simply speaks negatively to their child. A parent who emotionally, physically or sexually abused their child. Anyone who gets raped or sexually molested will receive the Jezebel spirit.
Most who are hurt and wounded and cannot forgive the person who hurts them will tend to give legal rights to the Jezebel spirit to torment them due to the unforgiveness, bitterness and anger. If they would ever be diagnosed by the psychological community they would be told they were a narcissist due to their entitlement attitudes of pride and that they could never change.
They grow older and become prideful, entitled, selfish, controlling, manipulative, sexually selfish and obsessed and view themselves as a victim instead of the abuser. They will sabotage their own relationships and hurt their own children. They will be the cause of their broken marriages but will blame their abused spouse to as many who will listen to gain sympathy from their family and friends and church people.
So what is a spouse to do who has been hurt and abused by their Jezebel spouse? What gives them the best chance of getting them healed of their soul wounds and delivered. To get them to admit that they need help and be responsible for their actions that caused the marriage to be broken?
Ultimately the abusive Jezebel spouse needs to admit they need help (own it) which most will never do. They will take some small percentage of the brokenness of the relationship (5-10%) but their demons will largely want them to blame as much as possible on their abused spouse.
So the best chance of helping the Jezebel spouse to get healed and delivered is:
1 – Have them read about how people who get hurt who are not able to forgive will have demonic spirits that will gain legal rights due to the unforgiveness (Matt 6:14-15) to torment their thoughts and then cause them to trigger and control their spouse and behave mean to them. The truth is what sets a person free. Most Christians are never told the truth and thus cannot get delivered. I would strongly recommend giving my book Freedom From Soul Wounds and Demons to them. It’s available in paperback, Kindle and Audible.
2 – Have them watch testimonies from others who have been healed and delivered. Testimonies are powerful when a man struggling with the spirit of Jezebel hears another man share how he used to be very controlling and mean and struggled with Jezebel but got delivered when he decided to forgive everyone who hurt him and repent for his pride and sin. Same thing when a woman with the Jezebel spirit hears from another woman who is it but got delivered. You can share with them testimonies from my You Tube channel at https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLCDd9Vi2OgOz_h_VjY8Lg53Zah-OWA4NB
3 – Then I would recommend some solid teachings surrounding getting one’s soul wounds healed and deliverance that they can hear. We have a thousand teachings for free available on our YouTube channel at YouTube.com/@nelsonschuman
4 – As a person receives the truth on how a Christian (Holy Spirit filled and tongue talking) can struggle with demons due to unforgiveness, pride and sin in their lives the strength of Jezebel (and the prideful spirit of Leviathan) begins to weaken in their lives. Then they may desire whole heartedly to get healed of all their wounds and delivered from demons. They may want a personal healing and deliverance session. They can schedule a session with me with my assistant Tina at firstname.lastname@example.org
Ultimately getting a person delivered from the spirit of Jezebel and Leviathan (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) is one of the hardest things to accomplish. It often takes a couple of years to be fully freed from Jezebel and Leviathan. We have seen thousands around the world who have been delivered from it which is a miracle every time. Every person has a free will to choose to be honest and want to change which is extremely hard. To be freed they will have to admit they need help, take responsibility for their bad behavior, repent for their pride and sin and command their demons to go.
The easier thing for them is to go through with a divorce while convincing as many people as possible that they were a victim and lying about their spouse whom they abused calling them the abuser. They will either make the divorce happen and say they had to and lie about their abused spouse or say they didn’t want the divorce and force the person they abused to file and then blame them for it.
God knows who the main cause of the divorce was as the one with the Jezebel spirit always is. They are the one who abused their spouse behind closed doors all the while acting with no remorse. Rarely is the divorce fault 50/50 as most would want people to believe. The person who operates in the spirit of Jezebel is the primary responsible party. It doesn’t mean the spouse who operates in Ahab is blameless – they also need healing and deliverance. God hates divorce but there is always one who was the primary responsible one for the breakdown of the relationship as they control and manipulate and abuse their spouse to do what they want. Ahab is cited in the Bible doing more evil than any other king before him but it was because Jezebel stirred him up and he could not stand up to her and say no.
“But there was no one like Ahab who sold himself to do wickedness in the sight of the Lord, because Jezebel his wife stirred him up.”
I Kings 21:25 NKJV
The Ahab spouse who has truly been controlled and abused has to ultimately make a decision concerning the abusive Jezebel spouse if Jezebel refuses to get healed and delivered. The Lord will ask you “Who are you going to serve…the demons in your spouse or Me?” We cannot make an idol of our spouse who submits to demons. A couple who followed our Restored to Freedom ministry had the wife who divorced her husband who struggled with Jezebel because he refused to get delivered. Then after the divorce he eventually chose to get healed and delivered and then truly changed. Got delivered of alcohol too. Then they got remarried and are now enjoying their peaceful marriage.
“Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled;”
Hebrews 12:14-15 NKJV
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, “I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you, and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty.”
2 Corinthian 6:14-18
“When I wrote to you before, I told you not to associate with people who indulge in sexual sin. But I wasn’t talking about unbelievers who indulge in sexual sin, or are greedy, or cheat people, or worship idols. You would have to leave this world to avoid people like that. I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people. It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. God will judge those on the outside; but as the Scriptures say, “You must remove the evil person from among you.””
1 Corinthians 5:9-13 NLT
Men who look at pornography (over half of all pastors look at porn and masturbate) have committed adultery in their hearts according to Jesus. They need healed and delivered from their demons.
““You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Matthew 5:27-28 NKJV
So ultimately everyone would like both husband and wife to choose to get healed and delivered but most marriages consist of one operating in the spirit of Jezebel while the other operating in the spirit of Ahab. Those with Ahab have a much higher rate of getting delivered while those struggling with Jezebel have a much harder time getting delivered. We all have a free will. Choose wisely.