Have you ever considered what you say to your children can haunt them the rest of their lives if you speak negative words of death over them? Conversely, if you speak positive words of encouragement and life that they will blossom like a flower that receives sunshine and water and will see blessings in their lives. How often do you think and take inventory of exactly how you speak to and treat your own children?
Those who spoke negatively every day to their children as they were growing up will see children who are largely affected in a negative way for the rest of their lives. Unfortunately the parents will then blame their children and speak out words of condemnation over them causing a huge chasm to expand throughout their lifetimes between them. Their children will naturally distance themselves from their parents – wanting to stop the onslaught of death words over them. Then often the parents will blame shift the reasons that their children want nothing to do with them onto their victimized children causing their children to feel hurt deeply and rarely wanting to ever speak to them as their parents need to own their abuse over them.
What is really going on behind the scenes that cannot be seen? When a parent (or anyone for that matter) speaks out hurtful words over someone such as, “You will never do anything in your life!”, or “You are a worthless piece of crap and I wished you were never born!”, or “Why can’t you be more like your brother or sister….they are perfect!”, “I wanted a boy instead of a girl”, “we did not want you to be born as you ruined our ability to have fun”, what exactly happens?
The negative words get attached to our own thoughts and intermingle. We hear the voice of our father or mother and the words resound over and over like a clanging cymbal inside our head. Over and over again we ruminate upon those negative words. Often we start to believe those evil lies as truth and we agree with them. Then we begin to walk it out throughout our life, bringing those words to fruition. We are convinced that they are truth. Often we develop an anger and hatred for our father or mother. A root of bitterness begins to grow.
Deuteronomy 29:18 “Beware lest there be among you a man or woman or clan or tribe whose heart is turning away today from the Lord our God to go and serve the gods of those nations. Beware lest there be among you a root bearing poisonous and bitter fruit.” The fruit that will develop in you will bear forth bad fruit and is poisonous. You will fester anger and it can produce death.
Hebrews 12:15 states “See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no ‘root of bitterness’ springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled.”
So let’s go a little deeper. The thoughts that are coming to us, which often sound like the voice of our own mother or father (or whomever else spoke them over us)…are they now our own thoughts? Or are they thoughts that came from the words of our father or mother? Or were they thoughts from actual demons who are trying to keep us thinking about the words of death over and over again to torment us forever? It’s probably a combination of all the above but too many people completely ignore the fact that the enemy is real, demons are real, and they torment us in our thoughts. They torment our souls which are comprised of our mind (thoughts), will (freewill) and emotions (how we react to them). The National Science Foundation in 2005 did a study that found that people can have up to 50,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day, of which 80% of their thoughts are negative and 95% repetitive of the same thoughts of the days before.
2 Corinthians 10: 3-5 “ 3 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. 4 For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of god, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,..”
So how do we actually stop all the negative thoughts that are hitting us every day from our mom or dad and other people? How do we actually take every thought captive so it doesn’t continue to take us captive? How do we stop the 50,000+ negative thoughts every day from the demons on assignment to torment us so we never have peace?
We need to ask Jesus to come to heal us from our past wounds in our soul (mind, will and emotions). So your call to action is to go back to your memory of the various wounds and pains from your past and truly go there in your mind. Remember what it felt like when your mom or dad berated you verbally over and over again…think about what it felt like to have them hurt you that one time when you were so embarrassed or belittled…sometimes it could be physical or even sexual. Anyone who hurt you (whether related to you or not) in order to get set free from the tormenting thoughts of today…you need to go back to the point of the pain and then ask Jesus to come and give you a few words to heal it. When you hear Jesus give you the words to heal (such as…”it was not your fault”, “you were an innocent victim”…”your dad said those words because he was hurt by his dad”…”your mom was mean and controlling because her mom hurt her” then your soul wounds will get healed. Then you can take your authority from Christ and command the demons that always attach to the wounds – to go to the pit in Jesus name. Then you will not be triggered anymore from the pain of your past and you will not feel the negative affects from them. You will feel peace and joy. And often you will be healed physically from pains or diseases.
As parents – we are responsible for loving our children like Christ would want us to. Proverbs 18:21 NKJV says “Death and life are in the power of the tongue. And those who love it will eat its fruit.” So what do you love? Do you love to speak death out of your mouth every day inflicting the same demonic thoughts that are hitting your mind to come upon your own children and others in your life? Do you love never experiencing peace or love? Or do you love speaking words of encouragement that uplift your children to let them know how much you appreciate them, that they can do anything, that you are proud of them, that they are overcomers, that you love them no matter what they might do.
If your own parents have hurt you, please choose to forgive them right now, separate them from the demons that have tormented their thoughts and minds. They were probably hurt by their own moms or dads (or could have been sexually violated) or others who hurt them that you may never have known about. Ask the Lord to take all the unhealthy pride away from you and to bring you to a humble repentance. Own your own issues so your issues don’t have legal rights to own you by hearing the voices of demons in your mind. We must stop transferring the same demonic thoughts from generation to generation and instead of infecting our own children with the same negative junk we received, we need to instead bless our children so that they will prosper in their souls and pass blessings onto our children and each generation thereafter.