Truth be told – if everyone was truly honest – they would tell you that they just really want to be loved by someone without condition.  The challenge in life is finding someone who is able to do just that.  So many people have been hurt by their father or mother (or step parent or have had sexual violations) and have not had their past soul wounds healed and demons delivered from tormenting their thoughts so will trigger on their loved ones constantly as they are not able to love unconditionally.  Usually the more gentle-spirited people end up drawing to those who struggle more with behaving controlling, manipulative and being more harsh and prideful (called the spirit of Jezebel).  So they get used and abused in their relationships and never know what it is like to have peace with someone who actually loves and cares for them.

Then those who have more of the effects of the spirit of Jezebel (Narcissist) will blame their own bad behavior (which ruins their own relationships) on their victims and hurt them even deeper and many of their victims never recover.  Their victims loved them as much as anyone could but it is never appreciated and never enough and the person with the Jezebellic (Narcisstic) spirit will often divorce their more loving victims – discarding them like they were simply a piece of garbage as they lie horribly about them to everyone to try and turn them away from them.

Deep inside everyone just wants to be loved.  Most are bleeding at some level to be loved. Unfortunately those who struggle more with the Ahab spirit tend to have a more gentle spirit who just want to get along with everyone and be loved and they often draw evil people to attack them like flies to sugar.  After a few broken and very painful relationships they often begin to harden their hearts and develop bitterness and never think it’s possible to trust anyone because they got burnt so many times.  Their heart is so broken just to have someone tell them that they love them and actually mean it.

People who were fortunate and marred someone who was a gentle and loving person have no idea what it is like to be married to a Narcissist / Jezebel.  They often are judgmental and look down upon a person who has been hurt so much when they loved on people with some of the strongest demons on earth – having received words and actions of condemnation and death from them over and over.  Unfortunately many pastors who have no understanding of how demons speak to people and cause them to act loving and kind to their face yet speak and act horribly behind closed doors would be shocked to see how drastically different people with the spirit of Jezebel are.  They are very psychopathic as they have such an evilness inherently within them causing such pain and sadness for their victims who are usually gentle spirited people.  They have no compassion or empathy for their victims and want to destroy them because of how they were hurt growing up.  Unfortunately their own children who have grown up in their home where there is much yelling and strife will suffer from great fear and insecurity which causes their future relationships to be ruined as the same demons get passed down to the next generation.

From my thousands of interactions with people (marrieds and singles) around the world since 2015 it has become very apparent that a great percentage of people simply feel unloved in their hearts from their spouse or those they are dating.  Many who are married are unfortunately unhappy with their spouse who does not love them (because they both need to get their past soul wounds healed and delivered from tormenting demonic thoughts).  Then those who are single are sad because they can’t find a spouse to love them or enjoy time with someone who cares for them genuinely and so must be alone.  So for those of you who are single remember this – it is always better to be single and alone yet at peace then to be married and have your spouse emotionally control and abuse you.  Loneliness is a far better pain factor then to have a person come against you and your calling in Christ whose goal is to make you miserable and dominate you.  Many people who are married where one of them is godly is often yolked with a person who the enemy is using to combat the calling of Christ upon the godly person’s life.

So what is the solution?  Those who know me know that I don’t just introduce you to a problem without bringing the solution to the issue.  The answer to all these broken and lonely hearts who yearn desperately to be loved….is for people to get their past soul wounds healed by Jesus and then command the demons to go like Jesus taught us.  Then we truly change for the better and no longer manifest demonically and selfishly on people.  We can actually love like Christ and have each other’s best interest at heart.  We don’t trigger over a past unhealed soul wound of ours and go off on a person for hours.  We don’t try to impose our own selfish desires on to another person and try to make them do what we want (which in most cases is what the demons are telling us is the best decision to choose but in reality it is not.)

I have seen so many marriages where both people have gotten their past soul wounds healed and delivered who now totally love each other and are at peace and have such a pure love and joy (and other fruit of the spirit) that they look back on how their marriage was before and it seems light years apart.  Also their children who are still at home are positively affected and feel loved and secure and will have peace in their own hearts.

Billions of people have never felt loved yet are desperately yearning to find someone to love them at least once before they die. Sadly most who have come and gone in this world have never known what it feels like to be loved and their hearts felt like they were broken all the time.  Therefore do yourself a favor and ask Jesus to come and give you a word from Him concerning a past trauma or wound in your life.  Then forgive the person in your heart for all the things they did to hurt you.  Then command the demons that attached to those painful memories to go to the pit in Jesus name.  Then go to other traumas you experienced in your life until you get all your past pains healed and demons cast out.  Then you will be a much healthier and happier person who will be in position to love someone the way Christ would love the church.  Don’t give up hope…God wants to give us the desires of our hearts.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

New International Version

⁴ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

⁸ Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.