HOW TO OVERCOME SEXUAL LUST
Lust is a huge problem in the world. Lust is also a huge problem in the church with church leaders, pastors, spouses and those attending church being addicted to porn, struggling with lust or living a sexually impure lifestyle.
90% of the thousands of people I have taken through healing and deliverance sessions have either been exposed to pornography, been exposed to nudity, touched sexually, experienced incest, molested, or raped prior to age 18. Most of them were currently struggling to live a sexually pure lifestyle when they came to me for a healing and deliverance session.
Below are some very disturbing statistics concerning porn:
– More than 40 million Americans are regular visitors to porn sites.
– The average visit lasts 6 minutes and 29 seconds.
– There are around 42 million porn websites, which totals around 370 million pages of porn.
– The porn industry’s annual revenue is more than the NFL, NBA and MLB combined. It is also more than the combined revenues of ABC, CBS and NBC.
– 47% of families in the United States reported that pornography is a problem in their home.
– Pornography use increases the marital infidelity rate by more than 300%.
– Eleven is the average age that a child is first exposed to porn, and 94% of children will see porn by the age of 14.
– 56% of American divorces involve one party having an “obsessive interest” in pornographic websites.
– 70% of Christian youth pastors report that they have had at least one teen come to them for help in dealing with pornography in the past 12 months.
– 68% of churchgoing men and more than 57% of pastors (64% of youth pastors) view porn on a regular basis.
– Of young Christian adults 18-24 years old, 76% actively search for porn.
– 59% of pastors said married men seek their help for porn use.
– 33% of women ages 25 and under search for porn at least once per month.
– Only 13% of self-identified Christian women say they never watch porn — 87% of Christian women have watched porn.
– 55% of married men and 25% of married women say they watch porn at least once a month.
– 57% of pastors say porn addiction is the most damaging issue in their congregation. And 69% say porn has adversely impacted their church.
– Only 7% of pastors say their church has a program to help people struggling with pornography.
Ryan Singel wrote in November of 2004 that researchers told a Senate hearing that internet porn is more addictive and harmful than street drugs. One called for government-funded research into the “erototoxins.”
“Internet pornography is the new crack cocaine, leading to addiction, misogyny, pedophilia, boob jobs and erectile dysfunction” according to clinicians and researchers testifying before a Senate committee.
Witnesses before the Senate Commerce Committee’s Science, Technology and Space Subcommittee spared no superlative in their description of the negative effects of pornography.
Mary Anne Layden, co-director of the Sexual Trauma and Psychopathology Program at the University of Pennsylvania’s Center for Cognitive Therapy, called porn the “most concerning thing to psychological health that I know of existing today.”
What happens when we are exposed to porn, touched, sexually violated, molested or raped is that demons have legal rights to begin to speak to us in our minds and give us thoughts to pull us back into ungodly sexual behavior over and over again which feeds our lust. So just because a person asks Jesus to come into their hearts does not remove their sinful behavior they struggled with prior, especially when it comes to sexual impurity, lust and porn. The demons attach to their soul as long as they continue to live in that sexual sin. That is why so many of us (including those who attend church) are not living a sexually clean or pure lifestyle and struggle with porn, masturbation, lust or sex outside of marriage. That is why so many pastors are living sexually impure lives, lusting after women, looking at porn, and not preaching messages against it. Demons have legal rights to infect them and cause them to live in sin so then they would feel like a hypocrite if they preached a message against what they are actually doing every month.
“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Matthew 5:27-28 NKJV
It’s an epidemic in the church as so many pastors are struggling with sexual purity as well as men and women in the church. When is the last time your pastor has preached a message on living a sexually pure lifestyle and to never look at porn or masturbate as it is sin against God?
So all who are currently looking at porn, and lusting after others, have committed adultery in the eyes of God and need to repent and stop doing it. Lusting and masturbating or having sexual relations outside of your spouse will ruin all intimacy between husband and wife. The desire to continue to seek out porn and masturbate is similar to the addiction of drugs due to the high in your brain and good feelings of an orgasm. Unfortunately it allows all kinds of demonic spirits to torment you and your spouse. It also will cause abuse, strife and arguments between spouses which will ruin all intimacy. Sex becomes just a thing with no true love or closeness between husband and wife. It ruins what God created as a gift.
“Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”
I Corinthians 6:18-20 NKJV
So how do you repent and truly change. How do you stop looking at porn or lusting after women or men? You first have to want to stop as God cannot override your freewill. You have to want to obey God and change instead of trying to justify your sin.
Then we need to go back in our lives to when we can first remember being exposed to porn, sexually touched, molested, raped, or any sexual violation and have Jesus heal us, take away those impure memories and feelings, and cleanse us from those wounds. The Lord is sorry that you were sexually violated, shown porn, etc. because that is when you began to struggle with lustful thoughts from demons. They gained legal rights to torment you. Then they drew you back to search for more porn, to act out and touch someone else, experiment, play “doctor”, etc.
So think back to your first exposure to something sexual in your life and then say “Lord I no longer want to struggle with my sexual impurity. I choose to forgive all who showed me porn or molested me. I give you all my impure thoughts, lust, and improper sexual urges and ask you to remove them from my mind, memory and cleanse my soul.” Then the Lord will heal your soul. Then say “I now command all demonic spirits that attached to my soul to go to the pit in Jesus name!”
Then you should feel lighter and cleaner. Then any and all ungodly sexual relationships that you have had with other people state “I break off all ungodly soul ties and sexual covenants that I have made with anyone. I repent for all sexual sins that I have ever committed in Jesus name.” Then ask Jesus to heal you. Then command all demons to go to the pit in Jesus name.
You should not feel lighter, clean and pure and be able to walk in sexual purity the rest of your life. Make sure to not allow your eyes to look upon any woman or man lustfully anymore. Do not look at porn anymore or masturbate or the demons will have legal rights to come back within you again. If you hear a demonic spirit trying to speak to you or tempt you then tell it to silence it’s voice in Jesus name. Take your authority in Christ and do not compromise.
“What then? Shall we sin because we are not under law but under grace? Certainly not! Do you not know that to whom you present yourselves slaves to obey, you are that one’s slaves whom you obey, whether of sin leading to death, or of obedience leading to righteousness? But God be thanked that though you were slaves of sin, yet you obeyed from the heart that form of doctrine to which you were delivered. And having been set free from sin, you became slaves of righteousness. I speak in human terms because of the weakness of your flesh. For just as you presented your members as slaves of uncleanness, and of lawlessness leading to more lawlessness, so now present your members as slaves of righteousness for holiness. For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness. What fruit did you have then in the things of which you are now ashamed? For the end of those things is death. But now having been set free from sin, and having become slaves of God, you have your fruit to holiness, and the end, everlasting life. For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Romans 6:15-23 NKJV