EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS THE SILENT KILLER OF MARRIAGES IN THE CHURCH No one wants to address the 800 lb gorilla in every church in the world. Satan wants to force people to stay in marriages where one person is the abuser and the other person is their victim behind closed doors. The church sadly is filled with many religious people controlled by demons screaming that “God hates divorce” in order to keep the abused victims chained to their abusers for life until they die unable to do much of anything for Christ yet they stay silent on “God hates abuse in marriage which causes divorce.” So those who are controlling, manipulative, coercive, prideful, evil, demanding and destructive get away with slowly killing their spouse by tormenting them into sickness and disease through constant emotional abuse over years resulting in their victim’s hair loss, weight gain or loss, depression, suicidal thoughts, and lack of any true sexual intimacy often developing into sexual abuse. There are many men and women who demand their spouse obey them like a slave behind closed doors instead of loving them like Christ while acting like they are such a loving and doting spouse in front of…

Emotional abuse in marriage & relationships is unfortunately more common than people would want to think and is also equally as challenging to decide just how to address it and with whom.  Most times when two people get married for the first time they expect their partners to love on them and to allow them to make decisions that bring the greatest level of satisfaction to them.  They both expect to be able to do whatever they want to do that will bring them the greatest level of enjoyment.  Often times shortly after the wedding (and some times longer)  one of the spouses will usually place demands to make most of the decisions in the marriage and begin to control and manipulate the other spouse who usually has more of a giving heart.  Over time it begins to cause the spouse who is being controlled to feel less valued, dominated and no longer feel loved.  The more demanding spouse wants even more control, will behave very proudly and talk more condescending with disrespect to their mate.  Eventually the controlled spouse will feel sick to their stomachs frequently because of the consistent arguments (usually because after hundreds of arguments over the…

How should you handle emotional abuse in marriage & relationships? Emotional abuse in marriage is unfortunately more common than people would want to think and is also equally as challenging to decide just how to address it and with whom.  Most times when two people get married for the first time they expect their partners to love on them and to allow them to make decisions that bring the greatest level of satisfaction to them.  They both expect to be able to do whatever they want to do that will bring them the greatest level of enjoyment.  Often times shortly after the wedding (and some times longer)  one of the spouses will usually place demands to make most of the decisions in the marriage and begin to control and manipulate the other spouse who usually has more of a giving heart.  Over time it begins to cause the spouse who is being controlled to feel less valued, dominated and no longer feel loved.  The more demanding spouse wants even more control, will behave very proudly and talk more condescending with disrespect to their mate.  Eventually the controlled spouse will feel sick to their stomachs frequently because of the consistent arguments…

When one is enduring an extreme tribulation in life, the Lord can use it later in our lives as an extreme anointing from Him when coming out the other side healed, redeemed and restored.  There is a vast difference between enduring an extreme circumstance when you have no choice in life (such as verbal abuse as a child or worse) and then willingly allowing yourself to be taken advantage of or emotionally abused (or worse) in a marriage. When one is a child and grows up with a parent (or both) who treat you with rejection, control, criticism or worse, there is much pain that develops which the enemy uses later in life.  The enemy whispers to you that you cannot trust anyone and based out of fear, you become very controlling and can be abusive to other relationships in life, sabotaging them.  But once healed later in life, through forgiveness and possibly through renunciation prayers commanding any enemy spirits, such as Jezebel or Leviathan, to be gone from your life, you can develop an anointing from the Lord to help many others get freed. When a person is married to someone who treats them with contempt, verbally criticizing them…